How to Become a Real Winner Every Day

How do we win when we fail and our circumstances overtake us? Tips for becoming a real winner every day!The first summer after we moved, my son, Noah joined the recreation department’s baseball team. All summer long we drove to games and practices. He lost Noah would brush himself off, and try again the next practice or game.

Then football season began.  Guess what, he lost every single game.

Fast forward through another year, and the same fate for every sport that he was involved in.

After all that losing, you would have thought that his desire to go out for sports would have waned, and he would be bitter and just plain old grumpy.

I fall down and lose many times. Some days it seems like I lose all day long.

I say the wrong thing to a friend.

The school calls me because one of my kids did something bad.

I hurt my husband’s feelings.

I miss the mark all day long. But instead of brushing myself off ready to tackle the day again, I get grumpy.

I wallow in my own self-pity.

I tell myself I’m too tired.

Life is too hard.

I dislike making all these mistakes. Sometimes I wish someone else could just pick me up by my bootstraps, and do the hard work for me. It’s easier to blame others when I feel like I’m not winning.

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In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve made a mistake that cost them the life of perfection. Because of this mess-up, they no longer lived in the Garden where things were provided for them.

They could have become bitter or wallowed in their mud pit of self-pity.

Adam and Eve chose to lean into God every day. With God, they could overcome the days when they would fall down and make mistakes.

Since the biggest Fall, God has been providing grace and mercy continually. He sent Jesus so I can make mistakes, but He has forgiven and wiped my sin-slate clean.

Every day, every sin wiped away.

It is because of the Lord’s loving kindnesses that we are not consumed,

Because His [tender] compassions never fail.

They are new every morning;

Great and beyond measure is Your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23 (AMP)

God wants me to lean into Him. He’s the only one that can help lift me up by my bootstraps, and give me a fresh mindset to begin anew.

Even though Noah didn’t win all those games, I believe that he does have a winner’s mindset. He plays hard, gives his all and every day starts anew.

When you win all the time it’s not a challenge.

True winning is when you overcome your losses. When you try again over and over and finally experience a win.

“When you win, you don’t examine it very much, except to congratulate yourself. You easily, and wrongly, assume it has something to do with your rare qualities as a person. But winning only measures how hard you’ve worked and how physically talented you are; it doesn’t particularly define you beyond those characteristics.

Losing on the other hand, really does say something about who you are. Among other things it measures are: do you blame others, or do you own the loss? Do you analyze your failure, or just complain about bad luck?

If you’re willing to examine failure, and to look not just at your outward physical performance, but your internal workings, too, losing can be valuable. How you behave in those moments can perhaps be more self-defining than winning could ever be. Sometimes losing shows you for who you really are.”

― Lance Armstrong, Every Second Counts

Comment about a time you have failed? Have you stood back up and won?


I am sharing my post here today at Suzie Eller’s #livefreeThursday, Me,Coffee and Jesus, #TestimonyTuesday and #RARAlinkup


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0 thoughts on “How to Become a Real Winner Every Day

  1. I’m thankful He picks us up. A time when I failed was when I neglected my health, family, time with God (for the right reasons) to…blog. Next thing I knew God had allowed me to reap what I’d sowed. My health knocked me off the grid for 3 years. I learned a lot in that time. It’s not just about what God writes through me now. I’ve learned to cheer others on, too.

  2. I love the analogy you shared about your son. I can totally relate to the whole ‘losing season’ thing! What an awesome picture of how we need to approach our lives in Christ. Great post!

  3. My daughter has had a similar experience as your son. I sometimes wonder how she goes back and continues trying with all those losses. But like your son, she does. It’s a good testimony when related to faith. God is faithful; even in the losses there are victories to be had. Enjoyed the visit today via #testimonyTuesday.

  4. Julie, I really needed to hear this today! It was just one of those days where I felt like my best wasn’t enough. The way I responded was just as you described, downcast and despondent, about to lose all hope. But you’re right, it all starts and ends with Christ. He is the One who will help me get up over and over again. He is able to help me stand!
    Thanks for these wise words.
    By the way, kudos to Noah for being such a great example of perseverance!
    Marva | sunSPARKLEshine

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