I know nothing about boys. There I said it, and God has given me four boys and one girl. I didn’t have any brothers, or boy playmates growing up. The closest boy I interacted with was a cousin, who I saw a few times a year.
The jokes on me! What the heck am I doing?
Here are some things my boys have taught me:
- Objects can be right in front of them and they can’t see them.
- If clothes are next to the laundry basket, that’s as good as getting them in the laundry basket.
- Dirty, stinky socks are meant to be left lying around on counters, under tables, and behind books.
How do I raise these boys to be leaders and respectable men? What do I need to teach them so that they can let their light shine in this current world? What can I do to build character, which makes them charming to future wives and others within their circle?
First and foremost, I desire that my boys have:
- An intimate relationship with God
- A work-in-progress character that embraces growth in God’s image
- Chivalry and gentlemen-like manners
- Love for themselves and their relationships
- Strong work ethic and respect for others
- Healthy self-worth
The truth is all these qualities won’t happen without God’s wisdom and guidance.
If left to my own parenting, I know I’ve already screwed up. My best parenting action is to pray for each of my boys, asking for help, wisdom, and direction for each of my sons. Check out these other links for more about Christian parenting. Verses for Parents and Why Church is the Best Environment for KidsTo be the best men in life, God needs to be involved. Click To Tweet
Our culture isn’t going to give our boys any of these qualities. We are officially called the rape culture when it comes to how boys treat girls. Boys, within this culture, are objectifying or denigrating females currently and have little regard to the importance of sex within the marital bed.
If you haven’t noticed over the last few years, hate, violence, and disintegration have increased and our world is moving farther away from God. I don’t want my boys to conform to the society around them, but rather I want the voice of God to be the foundation of their heart.
Drawing into God in absolute truth throughout life is what I want my boys to grasp.
Truths Boys Need to Actually Know
- God gave you a purpose which can only be fulfilled through you.
- The Holy Spirit gives you unique spiritual gifts.
- Jesus died on the cross for you, if you believe in Him you will receive eternal life. You don’t have to do anything.
- Your appreciation for this gift is to live better as you grow more like Christ.
- God loves you totally and completely and will never stop loving you.
- Jesus is for you always.
- God wants to bless you.
- God’s rules are not to make your life bad, but to make it better.
- You will have hard times.
- God is your permanent anchor in those hard times.
- God’s Word will never fail you.
- You need Christian friends to help you on this faith journey.
- Respecting and serving others is a way to show God’s love.
- God is the only one who can fulfill your desires.
- Humans will let you down, but God never will.
- Being strong isn’t only about physical strength, but standing up even in fear when you know something is not right according to God.
- Hard work in your life will reflect what you believe.
Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity. (1 Timothy 4:12, NLT).
As I look forward to the future, praying for my boys is the first step.
We can pray for our boys’ hearts to be open to receive teaching from God. We can also ask God to give them spiritual wisdom to live for their purpose and to understand and use their spiritual gifts.
Our sons can be the beacons of light in the storm of our society.
May they draw into God amidst their daily lives.We can’t change an evil culture, but we can impact our boys to leave a mark on the culture. Click To Tweet
As my boys grow older, I’m learning more and more about their gender. I can tell you nothing pulls at the hearts strings than when one of my boys tells me thank you or leans in for a hug. When I find those dirty socks and laundry next to the hamper, I will chuckle because I know this season won’t last forever.
While I’m teaching my boys these truths, I’ll also take hold of them myself.