The stove had multiple kettles filled with the contents of supper. The smell of pot roast was wafting through the air, testifying it was nearly time to eat. I was trying to coordinate all the dishes being done in time amidst five voices creating an ear-deafening sound.
My body was weary from the day, and the thought of the kids shoveling food quickly in their mouths, and then leaving the mess behind, had me feeling more tired.
Three of the boys were cackling “mom”, the toddler was dumping dried beans on the floor under my feet and my daughter was prodding me about something.
As I bee-lined to the stove, I stubbed my toe on the bar stool sitting in the middle of the floor where it had been obviously moved.
My face started to flush and I could feel frustration welling up inside me. Just like the kettles boiling on the stove, I was ready to release my anger.
“What is going on here…will you all just leave me alone…. I’m trying to get dinner ready for you all.”
After I got all my words out, I felt better, but from the look of the kids’ quarter-sized eyes, I realized I messed up.
The Real Reason I Mess Up
Mommy fails. Again. Wow, God must be really glad He sent me these 5 kids.
Honestly, I don’t do well in stressful situations and my anger can come out like the pressure valve being released on a machine. Many times, my emotions are like a bottle of soda that has been shaken, foaming out the top, and spilling my contents on everyone.
Many days, I feel so broken for this job of parenting.
I can’t get myself right because I’m really a big ‘ole mess.
How can I be sure I don’t mess my kids up too? Check out my other post about messy parents here.
Do you ever feel like other moms have this parenting gig down and they seem to enjoy it? I, on the other hand, get extremely excited when bedtime comes.
Did I just admit that, promise you won’t tell my kids?
What you need to know about God’s promise for moms
A few months ago, God gave me a revelation. Those other moms are broken and messy too.
(Romans 3:23, NLT) For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.
Here’s the thing about those other moms, I’m not present in their houses around dinner or when their kids are flying off the handle. (How I wish I could be a mouse in their house, it would be comforting to know I’m not alone).
God also showed me that I needed to give myself grace in this journey. Motherhood and faith are a lot alike. There will be moments of failing and days of growing. We approach both without seeing but believing.
Faith and motherhood both need time in God’s Word in order to excel, and find wisdom for this journey. The only way I can become a great Christian mom is by being connected to God. As I grow in faith, I grow in my mothering.
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We can have confidence in faith and parenting when we realize God is in control of all the details, He has a plan and everything will turn out for the best.
Grace: God never calls you to a task without giving you what you need to do it. He never sends you without going with you. ~Paul Tripp
As Christian moms, we have a great resource at our disposal: God’s wisdom in the Bible.
As we pray for guidance, He will lead us to parent our children in the right way. This doesn’t mean we won’t make mistakes and screw up, actually, we will, but we have the ability to pray for greater wisdom for next time.
5 Promising Ways to Not Mess Up Your Kids
- Teach them that God assures us we will struggle in life. Model to them the importance of prayer during hard circumstances. God promises to help us in our struggles.
- Let your kids experience unhappiness, don’t give them unreal expectations. Sometimes life stinks, you accept and await tomorrow.
- Don’t pressure them to be perfect. We know God is the essence of perfection. We can’t expect perfect children.
- Don’t rescue them. Growth happens through failing and making mistakes.
- Model growing faith and reliance on God. Let our children see us spending time in God’s word. When times are tough, we show them how to lean into God.
So Mom out there, who is serving her children, please give yourself grace in this season. Pray for guidance, strength, and endurance. Spend time in His word for your daily refreshment.
As far as my anger-releasing, I have been more intentional in stepping back and regrouping when I start to feel stressed. Exercise every day and spending time in His word makes a huge difference.
Moms, you are doing a great job! Your kids will turn out exactly as God needs them to.
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