Why You Should Stop Giving Your Spouse the Leftovers

Today I am welcoming Madison Weaver to the blog. She writes about marriage and she has a new e-book devotional which is designed to help wives grow closer to God and their husbands. I hope you will check it out.

It’s been a crazy day. You’ve been running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to get things done. You are mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausted. You’ve worked all day long, got the kids where they needed to be, fixed dinner, and somehow managed to clean your entire house. At the end of the day, you fall into bed exhausted and ready to fall asleep.

Then to your surprise, you find out your husband wants to spend some time with you. *Sigh*

We’ve all been there at some point in our married lives. We spend all day focusing our time and energy on other things, such as work, kids, and the like.

Then at the end of the day, our men are patiently waiting for their turn to spend some quality time with us.

I know how hard it can be at times, but it is so necessary that we take time out to be with our husbands and stop giving them the “leftovers” of our time.

Husbands deserve our time too.

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Why am I too tired for my husband?

My husband and I are full-time college students. Most of our time is spent studying, writing, or actually going to class. Our days are busy, and usually, by the end of the day, we are both tired. We put all of our effort into our schooling and future careers that sometimes we forget about spending time with each other.

Spouses need each other. They need that time together to just sit and talk about our day.

Both husband and wife have the need to feel loved and important. What are we telling our spouses when we are too tired to spend time with them? That they aren’t as important to us as the other things that fill our time. It is a constant choice that we have to make!

Juggling work, social life, kids, and marriage can be tough and sometimes overwhelming. You have to remember, though, that you made a vow to your husband on your wedding day. You promised to love and cherish him forever until death does you part. Before you had your kids and job, you had your husband. Remember that he will be there after the kids have grown up and you retire. Nurture your marriage and spend quality time together.

Make a plan

As you probably already know, marriage takes work! It is so worth it, though. That is why it is important for us to take action.

  • Make a plan to spend quality time with your spouse on a regular basis.
  • Have a weekly/monthly date night. Have some quiet time before bed at night, or get up a few minutes early in the morning to have a cup of coffee and eat breakfast together.
  • Get creative! Maybe you could take the kids to Grandma’s for a night and go out to dinner, or go even bigger and do a weekend trip to your favorite city.

Spending Time Together is Important

Whatever you do, it doesn’t have to be extravagant or fancy. As long as the two of you are spending time together and connecting, it will benefit your marriage in so many ways!

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They will begin to feel loved, valued, and appreciated and continue to grow into the best man they can be for their families!

If you want to invest in your marriage and learning how to truly become one with your husband, I have the perfect resource for you! I just released my new e-book “Becoming Why You Should Stop Giving Your Spouse the Leftovers. Exhaustion and parenting can leave us women too tired for our spouses. Why is it important to make time for them? What did we promise them? 30 day Devotional for wives.One: A 30-Day Devotional for Wives”! It is designed to help wives grow closer to their husbands while also growing closer to God. To learn more about it and purchase, go to From This Day Forward Blog.

 

Why You Should Stop Giving Your Spouse the Leftovers. Exhaustion and parenting can leave us women too tired for our spouses. Why is it important to make time for them? What did we promise them? 30 day Devotional for wives.

 

 

Madison is a follower of Jesus, wife to Steven, and mommy to her fur baby Bentley. She strives to encourage and equip wives to grow closer to God and their husbands on a daily basis. She loves to spend time in the Word of God, go on dates with her husband, whip up treats in the kitchen and travel the world when she can. In all that she does, she strives to please God most of all.

 

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13 thoughts on “Why You Should Stop Giving Your Spouse the Leftovers

    1. Thanks so much for reading Michele! It sure is easy to fall into, but spending quality time with each other is definitely crucial for a happy marriage!

  1. Making a plan to spend time together is wise advice. Sometimes we think that makes it “unromantic” but that’s not true. It gives you and your spouse time to look forward to. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks so much for reading Lisa! Definitely not true that it’s unromantic. If you put forth the effort to pursue your spouse, you can have a lot of fun together!

  2. I mistakenly thought that since we work together and don’t have kids yet that we wouldn’t need “date night” or time set aside especially for us to bond. We are almost ten months into marriage and I’ve realized how wrong I was! I wish I could undo some of the pain from times when we didn’t feel connected. Thanks for this encouragement, Madison and Julie!

    1. Alex- glad you stopped! I think stepping away from the usual is great for all couples. It’s important to get some routines down pat so when you have kids it’s something you continue. That’s coming from a mom of 5 kids. Date nights are few and far between, I wish we would have set this routine pre-kids.

    2. Thanks so much for reading Alex! I can say my husband and I have been guilty of doing the same! It really does make a difference in the connection you have with each other!

  3. Wisdom here and challenging still. We have been married 13 years and finally figured out you can’t wait for the perfect weather to plan stuff or it will never happen. Thanks so much and nice to meet you here, Madison. Bless you both!

    1. Thanks, Meg! Planning is the key when you have kids, isn’t it? We don’t want to put our relationship on hold until the kids are gone though. Sneaking in time is the key!

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