Inside: Do you feel like you’re failing at this parenting gig? Do you have the desire for being a better parent this year? We can’t grow without God’s help!
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Another new year, are you ready?
What changes have you considered? Have you made any plans to transform your parenting?
Or maybe you think you’re rocking your parenting?
Can I be honest?
I fail at being a good mom every day. Many days, I don’t exemplify Christ to my kids. I have said swear words, eaten many nights without praying, and have tucked in those littles bodies without saying a night prayer.
Somedays I’m so me-focused on my problems that although I’m
I’ve dealt with seasons of anxiety and depression so during those times I’m not my best.
Friend, you might have just read the above sentence and thought, “well gosh, you should see me if you think you’re failing!”
What I want to tell you is that we all get parenting wrong more than we get it right.
There are just some mistakes we wish never existed, but the goal is being a better parent today than we were yesterday.
Change doesn’t happen overnight, but rather it takes intention and dedication to become better.
Here’s the thing, might I suggest we were made to make mistakes?
Yes, you read that right.
No one is perfect except the Creator of the World. We were made to make mistakes.
Mistakes are what drives us to rely on Someone greater than yourselves.
It’s the beauty of grace and the determination and drive to be transformed more like Christ.
I don’t know about you, but I need someone to depend on when days of parenting are hard.
When I don’t know how to discipline or how to approach a situation.
When my guilt and shame of getting it wrong beg me to give up or give in.
However, the blessing of God is that He is wise and knows how the situation will turn out, so this comforts me because I have someone greater than me to lead and guide me.
Parenting in this World
The truth of the matter is we live in a scary world.
With the blessing of technology, also comes the curse of having everything at our fingertips. Our kids are exposed to much more negative behaviors within the home than ever before.
School violence is commonplace and our kids are dealing with stresses that are real and damaging to their minds and bodies. It has been said that when online, our kids are 2 seconds away from porn and graphic, inappropriate scenes.
Another issue our kids are buying into is that the world revolves around them.
By catering to their wants and needs, holding back discipline, the instant gratification of our culture, we have kids that are focused on themselves and not on the real reason for their existence. (Which is God’s purpose for them by the way)!
Busyness is a trend and families are just plain old busy. Studies have said that the family engages in less than 15 minutes of parent-child conversation each day.
Most families are on the run from morning till evening and the numbers of increasing cases of anxiety and depression have to prove it.
The problem comes when we don’t allow our kids to have downtime, refresh and regroup. When we shut off the technology and spend time enjoying each other’s company.
As Washington Post journalist Brigid Shulte points out on NPR’s Tell Me More, we’re an achievement culture, always wanting to be our best and pushing our kids to be their best.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for our kids, but are pushing them away from the Real Best?
Being a Better Christian Parent
As Christians, our primary goal as a parent should be equipping our children to:
- Develop their own faith
- Figure out their God-given purpose
- Learn how to depend on God through prayer and His Word.
- Understand God is in control
God has a directive to both parents and children and that is to transform/ grow and become more like Him.
6 Direct your children onto the right path,
and when they are older, they will not leave it.
Truly we can never become better parents without spending time in God’s Word ourselves.
Sometimes we might find ourselves in a parenting rut and need some direction on how to get out and start a new.
7 Practical Steps to Being a Better Parent
- Spend daily time in God’s Word
- Utilize support through godly friends and small Bible studies
- Make time for ourselves
- Spend time connecting with your spouse
- Reduce stress
- Aim for wellness for your whole family. (Eating well, exercising helps moods and mindsets)
- Ask God to help make us better parents
The only way we can ever become good parents is when we are connected to God.
Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing.
Even though I might not consider myself a good parent, I know that by being connected to God, He is transforming me. He knows what my kids’ needs and what I need to possess in order to help them be their best.
So on the days when guilt feels huge, and Satan’s lies about our parenting keep harassing us, let us draw in closer to the vine, give ourselves the grace God blesses us with, and remember that He makes all things new, even our parenting!
Children are truly a blessing from God. Unfortunately, they don’t come with an instruction manual. But there’s no better place to find advice on parenting than the Word of God, which reveals a heavenly Father who loves us and calls us His children. It contains great examples of godly parents. It gives direct instructions on how to parent, and it is filled with many principles we can apply as we strive to be the best parents we can be.
– Adrian Rogers
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