Inside: How do you overcome suicide when it puts its mark on your family? What does God’s Word say about Christianity and suicide?
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(Romans 8:38-39, MSG).
31-39 So, what do you think? With God on our side like this, how can we lose? If God didn’t hesitate to put everything on the line for us, embracing our condition and exposing himself to the worst by sending his own Son, is there anything else he wouldn’t gladly and freely do for us? And who would dare tangle with God by messing with one of God’s chosen? Who would dare even to point a finger? The One who died for us—who was raised to life for us!—is in the presence of God at this very moment sticking up for us. Do you think anyone is going to be able to drive a wedge between us and Christ’s love for us? There is no way! Not trouble, not hard times, not hatred, not hunger, not homelessness, not bullying threats, not backstabbing, not even the worst sins listed in Scripture:
They kill us in cold blood because they hate you.
We’re sitting ducks; they pick us off one by one.
None of this fazes us because Jesus loves us. I’m absolutely convinced that nothing—nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable—absolutely nothing can get between us and God’s love because of the way that Jesus our Master has embraced us.
Our Story of Suicide
A few months ago, I signed up to write this post. I was a little nervous to put my name next to this topic, but as the weeks have gone by, I’ve become more afraid to write about this.
You see this topic is becoming more and more pertinent lately. I wanted to write from the heart and not get it wrong.
I mean, it’s a topic near and dear to my heart because my family’s life has been affected by suicide.
If I’m honest with you, it hasn’t been easy, and my husband and I have struggled with what others have told us and what the truth is in God’s Word when it comes to suicide.
About 7 1/2 years ago, my husband’s best friend (who was his uncle) committed suicide. To say it was a shock is a huge understatement. Looking back, my husband noticed a few signs amiss, but would have never thought his uncle would take his life.
The days and weeks following his death were full of questions.
The Yearning for an Answer
We’ve heard it all:
- Our loved one isn’t in heaven.
- Maybe our loved one is.
- Judas isn’t in heaven.
- How could anyone do this?
Even more, the comments kept coming for a few weeks following the memorial service.
The fact is, even a few pastors we talked to weren’t sure what to say or how to encourage us during our time of grief.
The truth is, you only have to google Christianity and suicide together and see that there is a huge debate.
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God is the Answer
The argument can be that the person didn’t ask for forgiveness prior to the act and besides true faith wouldn’t lead us to go against God’s command to not murder.
My thoughts on this are:
First, if someone dies unexpectedly, did they ask for forgiveness?
Secondly, all of us break God’s commands and many murderers have asked Jesus into their lives after the act and receive full forgiveness by Jesus’ death on the cross like the prisoner on the side of the cross near Jesus.
To put another way, when someone close to us dies in this manner, having others tell us that they won’t be in heaven is like pressing salt into an already painful wound.
It doesn’t comfort us, but rather creates a whole new anxiety about what we should have done or how we should have shared God more etc.
I can attest to the fact that this was the biggest struggle through those weeks and months, and it almost felt like the Evil One liked to join in with the questioning.
It makes us question what we know to be true.
In our case, our uncle was a God-fearing man who had plowed snow for the church the morning of his death in order to get the parking lot ready for Sunday services.
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