Inside: As a Christian, this should be the happiest time of the year. Haven’t we somehow been told this? But what if it’s not, loneliness is common this season.
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Here we are again. The Holiday season is upon us.
Consequently, do you find yourself sighing or grumbling under your breath?
It seems like it was just Christmas.
I’ve been feeling happier and now this season is here to bring me back down.
Christmas brings up a lot of hard memories and intense feelings, I feel sad and lonely.
I’m Sad and Lonely
As a Christian, this should be the happiest time of the year. Haven’t we somehow been told this?
But what if it’s not….
The first thing to remember is, I’m not discrediting the wondrous gift of our Savior. His birth came to set us free and give us hope for eternal life.But the reality is Christmas just plain stinks for many of us. Click To Tweet
The reason I can say this is because last year, my HeartBreak Holiday series was one of readers’ most favorite set of posts. The popularity of these posts tells me these words touched and inspired many.
To demonstrate how popular these posts were, the images of these posts remained popular throughout the year. People were saving these images, and I assume these images are going to be pulled out when the season happened again.
The reality is, people are struggling and are reaching out for something to offer hope especially during the November to January calendar months. Hearts and minds are in need of comfort and love.
Not a Joyous Season
Friends, that’s a considerable number. Almost half of the people dislike the Holidays. As a result, this time of year has the highest incidence of depression.
The honest truth is, my heart breaks over this, so God has given me a heart for reaching out to the struggling during the Holidays.
Why is this a hard time of year?
- Seasonal affective disorder.
- People realize how inadequate their life is.
- There’s anxiety about the amount of money spent on gifts, decorations, and food, etc.
- Spending time with family and friends you usually don’t, causes anxiety.
- Memories of loss and loved ones make it hard.
Ministering to the Sad and Lonely
Under these circumstances, I want us to reach out to others that are struggling in hard seasons by offering hope and encouragement. We can spur people to seek out others that are fighting this time of year and say, “I see you, hear you and am praying for sweet sister/brother.”
With this in mind, our faces don’t need fake smiles but we can authentically and with validation share about our real feelings, of people living in a fallen world.
We can ask for a hug and an encouraging word.
In other words, I want us to admit struggle and nod in agreement that life is messy. The truth is we all are messy, some can just hide it better. Click To Tweet
I’m unmasking the real life of a Christian, admitting life is hard, and pointing out seasons can break us. Truly, some seasons can make us feel like gritting our teeth and holding on to faith a little harder. As a result, these hard times can make us feel like our confidence is faltering and we feel like we aren’t persevering as we should.The Holidays can be heartbreaking. Click To Tweet
The real hope of this season is Jesus. He came to earth to show us that we are not alone. We matter in our Creator’s eyes. He was willing to die on the cross to save us.While I can’t take away the wounds and pain from the past, I can offer some tips to help us find some solace during these times. Click To Tweet
10 Tips to Lift Sadness and Loneliness this Season
- Seek out God and His word.
- Exercise- The endorphins when you exercise can help create a better mood.
- Seek professional help.
- Avoid what you’ve done in the past that has led to sadness, adopt new patterns and rituals.
- Journal and write out your feelings.
- Help and serve others.
- Pause and reflect on your blessings.
- Set up boundaries to keep yourself safe.
- Avoid negative energy.
This year, once again, Unmasking the Mess will share some great writers during Heartbreak Holiday. Each of these writers has a message to help us as the season commences. Notably, each post will offer hope and encouragement to us.
Dear friend, I am praying for your pain and struggles!
To read other posts in the Heartbreak Holiday series:
Dysfunctional Disaster Holiday