How to Live Loved: 5 Biblical Truths Every Christian Woman Needs to Know

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Inside: Feeling exhausted trying to earn love or worth? This post shares 5 powerful Biblical truths every Christian woman needs to anchor her heart in God’s unshakeable love and finally live from a place of peace, not striving.

Ever felt like you were chasing love, approval, or your worth- and still came up empty?

Yes, I’m talking to you (and also talking to myself here.)

It’s the root of who we are.

The question of all questions that we are constantly asking even if we aren’t aware of it:

Am I enough?

And we aren’t sure if we are, so we do more, chase more, be more, and try to achieve more.

In this process, we still feel unseen, unloved, and exhausted which furthers makes us feel not ever enough.

Maybe you still aren’t sure if this is you?

Here are some simple examples:

You chase love: staying in a relationship (even a toxic one) just to feel valued.

Or perhaps you over commit. Every event, every volunteer activity, every school activity- just to be liked or admired.

You chase worth: believing if you lost the weight, got the dream job , or the perfect car or home, then you’d finally feel enough. (Buzz kill: you don’t feel like it’s enough or that you’re enough.)

So many of us, Christian women, know God loves us and yet we struggle to feel it.

I know I have struggled to feel it and chased all the things I mentioned above.

The truth is, we don’t have to earn God’s love- we already have it.

Learning how to live loved will transform the way we walk through life.

When we live loved, everything shifts.

Our choices, our words, our relationships- even the way we see ourselves.

We are no longer shaped by doing more and striving, but by the confidence that we are secure in God’s love.

Let’s look at 5 Biblical Truths that anchor us in God’s love, no matter what life throws our way.

You Don’t Have to Do It All to Be Loved

The world constantly tells us we need to hustle for approval.

Do this, and do that.

Be the best mom.
Best wife.
Climb the career ladder.
Have a perfectly tidy home.

The measuring stick never ends.

But God’s love isn’t tied to our performance.

He loves you simply because you are His.

Romans 5:8 says, But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Living Loved Changes How We See Others

Have you ever noticed how hard it is to extend grace when you are running on empty?

I know I have.

When I forget how deeply loved I am by God, I find myself quicker to judge, become easily offended, and more impatient.

But when I’m Living Loved- truly rooted in God’s unwavering affection- it shifts the way I see others.

Instead of seeing people as difficult or frustrating, I start seeing them as souls who are also deeply loved by God.

Just like me.

Living Loved Allows Us to Love Freely

1. We Lead with Compassion, Not Criticism.

When we know how much mercy we have been shown, it becomes easier to extend that same mercy.

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. (Colossians 3:12, NIV).

2. We Stop Seeking Validation from Others.

Living Loved means our worth isn’t determined by anyone else’s opinion.

This allows us to love without expectation.

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. (Galatians 1:10, NIV).

3. We See Hurting People, Not Just Hurtful Actions.

Often, the ones who are hardest to love are those that are hurting the most.

Isn’t that the truth?

When we remember God’s patience with us, we can extend gentleness to others.

Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32, NIV).

Love That Leads to Truth

Living Loved doesn’t mean we ignore sin or avoid hard conversations though.

True love is willing to speak truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. Even when we might not be liked.

Jesus did this perfectly- His love was both tender and truthful.

He showed compassion to sinners, but He never affirmed the sin that held them captive.

He loved with eternity in mind.

Loving others in truth means caring about the condition of their souls more than their comfort.

It means remembering that eternity is at stake.

Our desire should always be for others to know the saving grace of Jesus and to spend forever in Heaven.

My brothers and sisters, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring that person back, remember this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of their way will save them from death and cover over a multitude of sins. (James 5:19-20, NIV).

You Can Have Peace in Middle of Uncertainty

Living Loved doesn’t mean everything will go as planned.

We live in a sinful, fallen world where sometimes problems seem in excess more than things going right.

Living Loved means we can hold peace in the middle of the chaos- because we are held.

There have been seasons in my life when I have felt like I am barely holding it together:

Crying in the shower- wearing sunglasses to cover my puffy, tear soaked eyes.
Lying awake in the middle of the night, staring at the ceiling.
Whispering prayers that didn’t even feel like prayers.
Wondering why God felt so quiet.

But here’s what I have learned (and continue to learn):

Peace is not the absence of trouble…it’s the presence of God.

I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid. (John 14:27, NLT).

What Does Peace Look Like When Life is Messy?

Sometimes it’s not a big breakthrough.

Sometimes it’s the smallest decision to pause and lean into His presence.

Here’s how I’ve found peace in the storm (and how you can too):

Turning off the noise and sitting in silence for five minutes.
Reminding yourself that you don’t have to carry it all.
Whispering His name when words are too much.
Clinging to His promises, not your plan.

You will keep in perfect peace
all who trust in you,
all whose thoughts are fixed on you! (Isaiah 26:3, NLT).

Living Loved Means Resting In Who Holds You

You’re loved, seen, carried, and known- not because you earned it, but because He never stops choosing you.

You don’t have to earn His peace.

You don’t have to understand everything to trust the One who does.

You can rest even here.

You can breathe even now.

You can walk in peace not because life is perfect- but because you are perfectly loved.

How to Extend Grace to Yourself

Maybe you’ve said it too:

I should be farther along.

I should have handled that better.

Why can’t I just get it together.

Friend, can I whisper something to your heart today?

You’re allowed to be a work in progress.

God isn’t asking for perfection- He’s asking for presence.

A Me Too Moment

Last week, I screwed up.

I missed one of my kid’s events because I didn’t write it down. My kid made me feel bad and I wanted to give my pink slip and run away.

I felt weary of trying to carry it all: schedules, meals, sports, house, mothering, being a wife, etc.

At a low part of my day with tears in my eyes, I felt God gently remind me:

I never asked you to do it all, I just asked you to walk with Me.

That was the moment I exhaled.

That was the grace I needed.

What is God’s Truth?

Here’s the truth:

You won’t get it all right.

You will miss the mark.

You will fall short…

But that’s exactly where His grace meets you.

Each time he said, My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. (2 Corinthians 12:9, NLT).

Let this encourage your heart today:

You are allowed to rest.
You are not behind.
You are fully seen and deeply loved by a God who delights in your progress, not your perfection.

Grace means that all of your mistakes now serve a purpose instead of serving shame.
~ Brene Brown

Living Loved

Here are a few ways to walk out Living Loved this week by extending grace to yourself:

1. Speak kindly to yourself.

Your self-talk matters. Talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend.

2. Take a break.

Yes, even if the laundry isn’t folded.

3. Celebrate small wins.

Progress, not perfection.

4. Remember your identity.

You are His. You are not defined by your performance.

You don’t have to earn love.

You already have it- in full.

You are Living Loved, and that love gives you permission to try again, rest again, and believe again.

Let today be the day you start offering yourself the same grace you offer everyone else.

Anchor Your Identity in Christ

Have you ever felt like you’re constantly trying to figure out who you are?

Like the world is pulling you in a million directions- telling you you’re not good enough, not doing enough, not being enough?

Yeah…me too.

It’s so easy to find our identity in what we do- our roles, our jobs, our body, our mistakes, our past, our parenting, or our relationship status.

But here’s the thing…none of those things can hold us when life gets shaky.

Only the truth of who God says we are can anchor us when everything else feels like shifting sand.

When the world tries to define you…let God have the final word.

The World Says….// But God Says….

The world says you have to hustle to be worthy.

God says: Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved,… (Colossians 3:12, NIV).

The world says you have to look a certain way to be beautiful.

God says: I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well. (Psalm 139:14, NIV).

The world says your worth is your performance.

God says: But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV).

The world says you’re alone.

God says: Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5, NIV).

Friend, you are not defined by your struggles.

You are not limited by your past.

You are not forgotten in your pain.

You are…

Beautiful. Victorious. Enough. Created. Always loved. Strong. Amazing. Chosen. His.

Not because of what you’ve done, but because of who His is.

Living Loved Walking Forward From Today

Here’s the truth your heart can anchor to:

You are loved right now, as you are.

Not when you get it all together.

Not when you earn it.

Not when life feels perfect.

Because love is not something you achieve. It’s something you receive.

1 John 4:19 reminds us:

We love each other because he loved us first.

Living Loved isn’t a one time “aha” moment.

It’s a daily choice to sit at His feet, hear His voice, and anchor your worth in what He says about you- not what the world tries to shout at you.

So How Do We Live Loved Every Day?

Here are some simple practices:

1. Start your day with God’s truth before the world’s noise.

Grab your Bible before you grab your phone. Just one verse can change your whole day.

2. Speak life over yourself out loud.

Your ears are always listening to what you say about yourself. Would you say that to a friend? (then why are you saying that about yourself?)

Biblical affirmations are powerful tools to rewire your mind.

3. Run back to His presence when you feel lost or unworthy.

He’s never tired of you.

The world offers quick fixes, God offers you Himself.

*this post was taken from the email series: “The Power of Living Loved: What It Looks Like and How to Walk It Out” which ran March and April 2025 in the Rise and Thrive emails from Unmasking the Mess.

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