Why We Need Godly Marriage Role Models

Inside: What is a mentor? Godly marriage mentors can show you how a marriage should look the way God intended it to be. Society’s definition of marriage is wrong.

*Disclosure: Post may contain affiliate links. See our full disclosure here.

Why We Need Godly Marriage Role Models. Ideas and advice from other Christian couples. What your vows mean to God. Encouragement for intimacy, challenges and problems in love. How to use prayer and Scriptures for your marriage.

Can you think of a Christian couple who are a role model for you and your marriage?

This Christian couple model how a marriage should look the way God intended it to be. The couple stands out to you because they are polar-opposite of what society says marriage should look like.

 

Culture’s Idea of Marriage

Our culture urges us to look out for numero uno aka ourselves. Everything revolves around our happiness, our pleasure, and our good fortune. If it doesn’t please us, we can drop whatever and follow the path to what does.

In this present moment, physical beauty and attractiveness are emphasized.

It’s very me-centric here, isn’t it?

So many of the Hollywood stars aren’t the best role models for marriage because frankly their marriages don’t last long or are racked with huge issues that aren’t something we want to emulate anyway.

Multiple marriages and divorces and still they can’t find happiness.

Or what about “conscious uncoupling” which gives excuses to dissolve the marriage gracefully so they can minimize God’s directives in the Bible.

Those in favor of this uncoupling aka Gwenyth Paltrow say, “the idea of being married to one person for life is too much pressure for anyone.”

The divorce rate is clear indication marriages aren’t lasting.

 

Godly Mentors

I don’t know about you, but I want to find people who have weathered seasons in their marriage and can provide me with tips and advice to do the same.

As I was thinking about role models, I overlooked a huge resource sitting within the walls of my church building. Many times, I overlook the wealth of knowledge of the older Christian couples surrounding me.

I glance past them because it requires me to ask them for help.

Asking for help and guidance is hard because we should be strong and not admit our weaknesses. We don’t want to admit a struggling marriage.

God’s Idea of Marriage

Here’s the thing, God designed marriage to be a team effort where we are in fellowship with each other.

This relationship is coupled with God. A conscious coupling in faith in a triangular fashion. A couple with God at the apex.

Each person supporting the other. “Others-centric” which is the opposite of our society’s thoughts.

God considers this relationship very important. (see this post on communication, keeping the spark alive and questions to ask your husband this year.)

However, our society likes to believe this union can be created and dissolved on repeat. The vows are a solemn covenant with God and our spouse which is a permanent decision.

Isn’t it funny, we know how important marriage is to God and yet we are afraid to get help when it goes awry? #godlymarriage #marriage #Christianmarriage Click To Tweet

Especially when we need to admit this to other Christians.

I’m having some issues with my marriage. I need help and proven tips that work.

Why We Need Godly Marriage Mentors. What is a mentor? Godly marriage mentors can show you how a marriage should look the way God intended it to be. Society's marriage view is wrong! #Christian #mentors #advice #Problems #long-term

What I Learned from Older Christian Couples

  • Faith is important, but it’s active faith. (Those with active faith are less likely to divorce)
  • Practice the art of submission, we encourage the best in each other.
  • Each day, give grace and mercy.
  • Worshiping together and praying is part of life.
  • Stand behind your spouse through everything.
  • Don’t go to bed angry
  • Internal beauty keeps on blooming and growing, whereas external beauty fades.

I want my marriage to last and wedded bliss continuing on throughout the years.

I want my faith to weave our lives to together and create a solid force that isn’t subject to the culture. Click To Tweet

My children deserve a role model in marriage.

Can we vow to find a Christian couple to model their marriage?

Here are some questions to ask your marriage mentors:

 

  1. How do you keep God center in your relationship?
  2. What does submission mean to you?
  3. What are some tips you’ve personally used when hard times happened in your marriage?
  4. How do you work through disagreements?
  5. What is the greatest lesson God has given you in regards to your marriage?
  6. How do you continue to practice love with your spouse?
  7. Any other marriage tips you can share?

We all can learn so much more in regards to our marriages. The lasting impression I heard was marriage is a journey and you learn throughout the trip. You grow together and arrive at your destination as two different people woven together in faith.

No perfect marriages exist, but two imperfect people following the Perfect Savior. #godly marriage Click To Tweet

“Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female. And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together” (Matthew 19:4-6, NLT).

 

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of GodThe Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of GodSacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?Christian Marriage: From Basic Principles to Tranformed RelationshipsChristian Marriage: From Basic Principles to Transformed RelationshipsYou and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of EternityYou and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple's Adventure Guide for Praying, Playing, and Staying Together52 Uncommon Dates: A Couple’s Adventure Guide for Praying, Playing, and Staying TogetherThe Mingling of Souls: God's Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and RedemptionThe Mingling of Souls: God’s Design for Love, Marriage, Sex, and Redemption#Staymarried: A Couples Devotional: 30-Minute Weekly Devotions to Grow In Faith And Joy from I Do to Ever After#Staymarried: A Couples Devotional: 30-Minute Weekly Devotions to Grow In Faith And Joy from I Do to Ever AfterThe 4 Seasons of Marriage: Secrets to a Lasting MarriageThe 4 Seasons of Marriage: Secrets to a Lasting Marriage

Why We Need Godly Marriage Mentors. What is a mentor? Godly marriage mentors can show you how a marriage should look the way God intended it to be. Society's marriage view is wrong! #Christian #mentors #advice #Problems #long-term
Why We Need Godly Marriage Mentors. What is a mentor? Godly marriage mentors can show you how a marriage should look the way God intended it to be. Society's marriage view is wrong! #Christian #mentors #advice #Problems #long-term

17 thoughts on “Why We Need Godly Marriage Role Models

  1. Such a great post, Julie! I really love your questions to ask marriage role models. Even though I’ve been married for 21 years, I am still learning and probably always will be. I think no matter how long you’ve been married it’s always good to seek out the advice of those who have more experience and wisdom. I actually have a couple in mind I would love to ask these questions!

  2. I love this and I have a twist on it. I was married to my first husband for 15 1/2 years and then he suddenly died. We had three children, went to church, and prayed together every night. I prayed to God into my second year of widowhood and said “If You intend on me finding another husband, you have to bring him to me.” And He did. I have now been married to my husband for 11 years. Neither marriage is perfect, but yes, God is the center. And the marriages have been amazing. Good, bad, ugly, and beautiful, and God is the heart and life. Together, the three of us, at different times, have grown and shared God’s grace to others. Love your post and it is so important to lift up and praise marriages which are God centered!

    1. Kelsey- I’m so sorry to hear about your loss! I’m glad God brought you another God-fearing man!
      Blessings to you friend!

  3. “two different people woven together in faith.”… love the definition of the marriage journey this way, Julie! I think about the role models I consider in my life and they may have so many differences but come together under His anointing every time it counts. A blessing to have that shining example available, isn’t it?
    Glad I popped over from #TellHisStory 🙂

  4. you are so very right! We need to see and learn from those who have gone through the trials and hung in there! Excellent post as always, Julie! #sittingamongfriends

  5. My husband and I both have parents who got divorced so before we got married we took the time to talk about what didn’t work in their marriage and how we work to be different. As we have lived different places we have had couples we have emulated. At our church there is a couple that is so sweet and Christ-centered. I would love to ask them these questions! Thank you for the post!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.