Inside: Messes and mistakes will happen but ultimately I know that God is working them out for my good and my children’s good. We can be an overcomer of our past!
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When you think back to your childhood, are there events which stick out in your mind? Have you buried them really deep so that no one can dig them up?
Maybe you’re a parent and the thought of this past event just makes you cringe and question if you’re any better than you were then?!?
When I look back, my childhood was a great big mess that has affected the way I am today. The good, bad and the ugly.
And the mess is so big
And so deep and so tall
We cannot pick it up. There is no way at all.
~Dr. Seuss, The Cat in the Hat
The Lies Which Taunt Me
I have an abundance of shame and guilt my childhood. Satan likes to bring this up when in my own parenting experience, I make a mistake.
You’re going to screw up these kids.
You don’t deserve to be their mom.
In that moment, I feel like God made a mistake when He made me a mom. I mean, I’m a huge mess, full of so many weaknesses and problems.
Have you had these thoughts? Ever question why God chose you when your past is less than ideal?
Overcomer of Messes and Mistakes
The truth is, we are all broken. Some of us might be more broken than others, but we ALL are broken and overcome by our messes. Raising kids is tough and raising Christian kids in our culture is even harder.
We need to remember messes and mistakes are a part of life on Earth. No one is immune to them. Everyone has something in their past that fills them with regret.
I’m afraid that all my problems and hangups will be transferred onto my kids. This is a lie Satan wants me to believe.
We see ourselves as damaged, and we paint that onto our kids.
When we focus on the lies, they grow, however when we remember God is using our past for our good, we can become an overcomer in Truth.
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God Weaves the Bad into Good
Here’s the thing, my past is just that, my past. It really doesn’t matter any longer, from here on and out is what I need to focus on. The end is what truly matters.
Messes and mistakes will happen but ultimately I know that God is working them out for my good and my children’s good.
Here’s how I know it to be true, let’s look at King David in the Bible.
- When he sinned, he asked for forgiveness.
- He depended on God and yet he made messes in his life.
- David stuck to his Savior when life got dirty.
- God was a refuge for David where he could escape the hard situation, and David trusted that God would not disappoint him.
At the end of a day, isn’t this the example we want to be for our kids?
The Testimony of the Past to our Kids
No matter what we do, our kids see dependence and devotion to God. Here is the best emulation our kids could ever have: no matter our past mistakes, we have a Savior that always embraces us and uses what we’ve been through to grow us and make us better.
A refuge is a place where we go to escape danger and persecution (Merriam-Webster).
When Satan comes at us with his lies, we need to head to God and find refuge in Him. We don’t need to allow Satan to shower us with his deceptions.
9 The Lord is a shelter for the oppressed,
a refuge in times of trouble (Psalm 9:9, NLT).
When we begin to feel like we’re failing at this parenting thing, let’s focus on these Scriptures:
Deuteronomy 31:6~The Lord goes before us and He won’t fail us or abandon us.
Romans 5:4~ What we went through gives us strength, makes us realize how we need God and the hope He offers.
Isaiah 41:9~ God has chosen us to be parents to these kids. (let this sink in)
Proverbs 3:5-6~ Trust in God and He will help us as we parent these kids.
Once we realize God chose us in spite of our past, we can become confident in our role as a mother. He knows all the past events that make us cringe, feel shame and guilt and yet, He has blessed us. Let us become confident in our role as we depend on Him.