The Best Way to Help your Child Deal with Faith Rejection
Inside: The reality is, our kids will feel the effects of being Christians in a sinful world. What is the best way to help our child deal with faith rejection?
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The relationship had lasted nine months, and in the sand, a purity line was etched. All parties had agreed until a summer affair had crossed the line. My daughter had left for a mission trip, and her relationship seemed sound and sturdy, but when they returned, new expectations came into place.
When she declared her toes would not step over the lines of purity, the boy quickly fled to find another girl who would ruffle the sheets of the bed.
As the days and weeks went on, my daughter became labeled as the “good Christian girl” who wouldn’t sleep with a boy.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
We know words and labels do cut, and hearts do break.
Rejection causes pain which can last longer than any physical pain will.
Standing Out for Christ
My husband was the only Christian boy on his public school bus route. On two different occasions, he was beaten up by an older kid on the bus.
The reason: he was Christian.
Nowadays, with the attention brought to bullying, we are led to believe stuff like this doesn’t happen. While we hope it doesn’t, we know from my example of my daughter, it still does.
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So how do we encourage, inspire and protect them as they grow in faith?
What does God say about standing out?
In His word, God tells us that we are to stand out. We shouldn’t fit in with culture, it’s what makes us Christian and set apart.
(Romans 12:2, NLT).
2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
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Thank you for sharing so many practical tools to help our kids out! I was not well equipped to deal with this as a child and even young adult, so this is great for me as a new mother.
Allyson- I wasn’t well equipped either. I would become shy or just walk away. I hope to instill boldness and confidence in my kids in regards to faith!
Thank you for writing this! This is so necessary, as someone who works with children and youth, this is one of the hardest topics to cover. Kids are so bombarded with the message that they fit in, and living as a Christ follower can sometimes be the furthest thing from fitting in! I hope that many people read this and share!
Hannah- thank you for your kind words! I think we need to affirm to these kids that it’s ok to not fit in and if someone can’t pick us out as a Christian, we aren’t living boldly enough!
Standing out isn’t easy or popular. But standing apart, by following God’s standards, is so worth it, despite being rejected. I’m still teased for my habit of leaving the room if whatever’s on tv isn’t clean enough for my comfort level!
Aryn- Good for you for standing up for what you believe!
It’s interesting how some Christians say they need to blend in so they can earn trust with people before they stand out for Christ. But this is so true that if we don’t always live proclaiming the Name of Jesus, then how are we truly living for Him?
Emily- I think they can earn trust for others by living for Him, no?
This is why we must not discipline the ‘no’ out of our kids. If they can say no to us in a healthy way, they develop the strength to say no to less friendly classmates.
Alice- Great thought! Thank you!
When our kids can see that our walk with God is real, they will know the reality of God, and it will be more genuine for them, too.
Susan- I pray I am that obvious to my kids! 🙂
It is so important to keep communicating with our kids and to help them stand strong when things like these happen. So many things to trust the Lord with – especially in parenting.
What a challenge! Thats so awesome that your daughter was able to be courageous because she was grounded in truth.
Unfortunately, I can relate to your daughter. Years later, I don’t regret my decision to stand firm in my beliefs about purity. I’m married to a wonderful godly man now and we have two sons. God honors obedience.
We are dealing with this with one of our kids and issues at middle school, not sex perse, but peer pressure issues and standing up for their faith.
Stephanie- I pray your kids stand up for their faith!
Stephanie- I pray your kids stand up for their faith! May God lead them to be bold!
Yes, it is so important to keep those lines of communication open with your kids, and then to be able to share with them how to actually live out their faith. May the Lord bless you as you bring your kids to Him!
Thank you, Bettie! I appreciate your words! 🙂
Thank you for sharing!! My kids are still young and have yet to really have to stand out or be rejected but I know its coming so I really appreciate this insight.
Anne- thank you so much, I hope it’s helpful!
Elizabeth- Such wisdom you gave here! I’m sorry about you being labeled, but I’m glad you stuck with your faith and have grown to help your children when they experience it!