Inside: Why did you get married? Find out what God desires for our marriages. Use the 5 action steps to get more connection and support.
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Today, I’m sharing over at Rebekah Halberg’s site. I’m so honored to share there as Rebekah is one of those bloggers I inspire to be more like. She has tons of advice and wisdom on her site to help us navigate our marriages!
Why did you get married?
Think about this question for a few moments.
When I think about the reason why I chose my groom, I think about a few things.
- Spending my life with someone I loved.
- Companionship: Someone I wanted to grow old with.
- Safety and Security
- Sexual intimacy
- Partnership to raise kids
Through the years, we might have forgotten the whys of the purpose for our marriage. The stresses of life seem to do their best to get us off-track.
But the fact of the matter is, God designed us to need marriage and need our partners.
God’s Purpose for Marriage
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” (Genesis 2:18, NLT).
Adam had God, the Garden of Eden, which provided security and safety, and yet God desired for Adam to not be alone in life.
God knew that life is more enjoyable when we have someone to share our experiences with.
Because God knew of the future fall into sin, He knew that Adam would need a support system as Adam dealt with the struggles and problems of life.
It’s the same with us. God knows we do better when we have someone encouraging us and holding us up in the good and hard things of life.
Of course, sin keeps us from experiencing the close relationship God had planned for us in the Garden.
For so many of us, we’ve forgotten this purpose of our marriage.
The Problems When We Forget the Purpose of Marriage
We might live together, but we’re on different emotional planes in life. We just aren’t connecting in the intimacy department in our union.
My husband doesn’t get me. My wife is so emotional; I just can’t keep up with her.
Maybe you’ve felt these feelings or heard these words from others.
Lots of marriages are missing the mark on connecting on this very important part of their marriages. By the way, it’s one of God’s purposes for our marriages.
This lack of connection can drive wedges in our marriages and actually cause a spouse to seek out another connection outside of the marriage union to get their needs met.
The reason emotional support is so important:
- To comfort us when life is hard
- Give us security when our world seems to be falling apart
- Help give us advice when we aren’t sure what to do or how to feel
- Communication (aka talking) in marriage is important
When we get this connection with someone, we’re encouraged, feel supported and valued. If this isn’t the definition of love, I don’t know what is.
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