Inside: It is a war I never saw coming and I have no control over. I’ve found 3 things that give me Hope, we will survive this war between anxiety and joy in our Christian marriage.
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Anxious. Worried. Afraid. I don’t mean to feel Anxiety. Can you relate?
Honestly there are days I want to scream because inside there is Joy. There really is joy in my life and in my Marriage today. A decade ago we were on the road to divorce. Nothing was going right and I was sure it never would again. Why didn’t the anxiety strike then?
Hi, I’m Tiffany and I battle anxiety. There are days it feels like my anxiety defines me. The real me takes a back seat and I struggle to breathe – let alone get off the couch. ‘Where did I go’ I wonder. “Where did my wife go,” my husband asks.
There is a constant war to assure him I am fine, he is fine, we are fine. None of this anxiety is related to our relationship. Our marriage is stronger than it has ever been and we have really fought some war’s together.
We have battle alcoholism, pornography, loss of jobs, miscarriages, a full year of colic…
Now we war against anxiety
It is a war I never saw coming and I have no control over. I’ve found 3 things that give me Hope; we will survive this war between Anxiety and Joy in our Marriage.
How can I keep a firm hold of Joy through Anxiety?
1. I have to remember what Joy is and where it comes from.
The thing I love about Joy is that we can have it regardless of our situation. It is not about happiness or smiling… though it often brings a smile.
Joy comes from Hope -even while we are patient in tribulations (Romans 12:12).
Joy is a fruit of the Holy Spirit who lives inside of me (Galatians 5:22).
And my all-time favorite verse to remind myself to keep hold of joy:
Romans 14:17 For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit
2. I have to remind myself how Big God has been in my past.
Regardless of what is happening today in my life and my marriage, I know I can trust God. God has always been faithful. Can you think of a time God has shown up in your life when all seemed lost?
It can be hard to remember – so I have learned to keep a journal. Then on days when the anxiety presses in and I think I will drown in it – I can open the journal and be reminded of a time God has rescued me. I can believe He will rescue me again – because I have seen Him do it in the past.
Can our marriage endure a war with anxiety?
My husband struggles with my anxiety. It is not a sickness he can fix or even really understand and so it puts him out of his element. I am fine, he is fine, we are fine.
3. We have had to learn how to communicate our needs to avoid problems – arguments, hurt feelings, insecurities.
Something that helps is to keep a list of things that help me. There are several things that help lift my spirit through an anxiety attack. Some of the things that help me are:
- A drive to sing at the top of my lungs
- A funny movie with the family
- Walking – just me a God
- Listening to Christian music
- A tall vanilla frappuccino and 30 minutes alone to read
- A few hours alone with no expectations
- Help with the housework or dinner while I rest
My husband doesn’t know the things that will help me unless I tell him. So I write a list. We talk about it so we can have a plan when there is a bad day. When he has a clear “To Do” list on a bad day it sort of empowers him. I see him stepping up, helping out, embracing his masculinity in his ability to show me love in a practical way.We can survive this war with anxiety and hold onto Joy in our Marriage. When we put God at the center, and communicate clearly about our needs we can't fail! Click To Tweet
Plus – if God is for us… who can be against us (Romans 8:31)!
Are you longing for Hope and Joy in your Marriage?
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Bio: Tiffany is a Jesus Girl with a passion to Encourage and Equip Wives and Moms through Biblical Discipleship. Connect with her on Facebook and Pinterest.