5 Significant Reasons Why Waiting for Your Man is Worth It
Inside: We want to fit in and we want the boys to like us when we’re tweens and teens. Let’s learn the real reasons why God wants us to refrain for having sex before marriage!
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Parents: I’ve put together this post to help get the conversation going with your tweens and teens as part of the Raising Godly Girls series. Have your tween/teen read this and then talk about the implications of having sex before marriage!
Imagine your wedding day… I’m sure you have a few times. Will it be in a church, outside, or maybe on the beach? What type of dress will you wear?
We all have thought about it or maybe even pretend played our wedding day.
It’s an important goal for many of us, and somehow on a deeper level, we’re always on the search for our prince.
Even in school, we might not want to admit it, but deep down in our hearts, we want the boy to choose us. Maybe we get frustrated by the pretty girl (you know who she is). She’s the one the boys always flock to, and she makes us feel bad about ourselves.
We think maybe if we do something, the boys will notice us.
How Do We Try to Get the Boys to Notice Us?
Did you know that you’re right in the prime years when boys start to notice girls? The years when we start to do things that we normally might not do, all because we want the attention of boys?
We might:
- Pad our bras
- Wear tight shirts
- Put on short shorts
- Even start to wear makeup
We might tell our parents that our friends are doing it too, but the bottom line is we want to be noticed.
Sometimes, I might even say things I wouldn’t normally say just to get the attention of others (mainly the boys).
To read the rest of this post, continue on to Like Minded Musings’ Godly Girls Series
The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You LoveWaiting and Dating: A Sensible Guide to a Fulfilling Love Relationship
Waiting While Dating: Christian Couples Who Kept God First From Courtship to Marriage
Lady in Waiting: Becoming God’s Best While Waiting for Mr. Right, Expanded Edition
Talking with Your Daughter About Understanding Boys (8 Great Dates for Dads and Daughters)
40 Days of Purity for Girls (True Love Project)
The Bare Naked Truth: Dating, Waiting, and God’s Purity Plan
Swipe Right: The Life-and-Death Power of Sex and Romance
Beyond the Swipe: Honoring God, Respecting Yourself, and Finding the Right Match
I love this post, Julie! We live in a world that promotes sexuality, and we need to be reminded that there are consequences.
Thank you, Heather! Yes, if we want enduring relationships there’s more than just sex and physical beauty!
It’s vital for girls to understand our worth in Christ so we don’t go about trying to gain worth through anything else.
Amen, Susan! How many of us are still trying to get worth from those around us?!?
Hey! Lovely post. I am so glad to hear someone talking about this. As a teenager (I’m only twenty now so I remember very clearly), the whole topics of dating and sex seemed very muddy to me. I remember vividly the deep burden of feeling as if I wasn’t enough as a girl (and woman by the time I turned 18 and 19) for a guy to pay me attention. Thanks for addressing the heart issues!
Thank you, Erin!
I love this and spoke on this often while I was youth pastoring. It’s a trap these girls fall into. I tried so hard to remind them that the type of guy who would notice them because of a push up bra is not the type of guy they want as their husband let alone boy friend.
Heather- love the insight you provide!
Oh, how I wish I had read something like this 25 years ago, Julie. In my late teenage years and early twenties, I saw love through the lens of the worldview. I did not put Christ first, and that affected my relationships back then. Glad to read you are sharing this Godly wisdom for the young ladies out there. When you know who you are in Christ, you won’t need a man or woman to define your worth or who you are. Thanks for sharing these insights based on biblical truths. Have a wonderful week, and God bless.
Thanks for the sweet encouragement, Horace! I hope you’re doing well!
Those outcomes are so different. God gives us the wisdom to keep ourselves for our spouse because He wants to keep us from heartache. He only has our best in mind. Thanks for sharing about this needed topic. Have a great week, Julie!
Thank you, Kelly!