Momma, Don’t be Afraid to Ask for Help
Inside: We can’t do it all. Learn how asking for help is a blessing to others! Tips, wisdom, and Bible verses to help you in motherhood!
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You can’t do it all.
You’re not Super-mom.
I’m speaking to myself here also. How many of us are drowning in all the things that we have to do daily and it’s taking a toll on our health, mindset, and faith?
Does this sound like you?
You have no energy.
You’re exhausted but the minute your head hits the pillow you either can’t sleep or toss and turn all night long.
Or maybe you’re irritable with everyone. You’re stressed out, anxious, and feeling like you can’t get excited about life.
Even though you are feeling all these things, you would never let anyone know this!
You’re “fine!” I’m “ok!”
Be All, Do All
Our culture glorifies doing it all yourself. Instagram highlights the mom who has an immaculate house, does Pinterest-ready meals, and has the perfect makeup and polished fingernails.
And maybe here you are (I am here too), trying to just get through with hair that needs to be washed, nails ragged, and smeared mascara from yesterday (because I’ve shed some tears!)
Be all, do all. You got it all.
But yet, we are just so weary and tired.
Does anyone else just want to be real? Let the dirty laundry hang out literally and figuratively and just admit it…I can’t do it all!
And that is ok!
Here’s what I want to explain to you:
The devil always attacks our identity.
He knows that if he makes us question who we are through exhaustion and distraction, he knows everything will suffer in our life.
Keeping us as depressed, isolated, stressed-out moms who silently struggle is where the “father of lies” wants us.
What Happens When We Aren’t Asking for Help
If the devil can make us question our worth as mothers raising a generation of Christian leaders, he will put obstacles in our paths to keep us from doing just this.
Not only does he make us question our worth but he also helps us to be fearful.
We don’t want others to see us fail.
So guilt becomes huge because we should be able to pull it all together and fulfill our role as moms.
Right here, right now I want to tell you, your worth is in Jesus.
Jesus’ death and resurrection make you worthy.
You can do this job of motherhood in tandem with God.
However, it is wise to admit that you need help sometimes.
Indeed, the first person we should turn to is our Heavenly Father. He tells us in His word to ask Him for wisdom and help!
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.
Secondly, reach out to others.
Your church would be a great place to start.
Many women are praying for opportunities to serve others. They would like to use their skills and talents to bless one another.
Admitting you can’t do it all opens the door of opportunity for someone else to serve.
I don’t know about you but I welcome opportunities to help someone else.
And on the flip side, sometimes, we need to receive with open hands as someone blesses us.
Not Asking For Help Because of Pride or Guilt
Pride also keeps us from reaching out to others, especially during motherhood.
If we had a broken leg and couldn’t drive our kids around, we’d be more willing to reach out for help because it’s a physical barrier to doing what we used to do.
Somehow, because people can’t see us struggling internally we write it off. Amiright?
If we had a sickness that prevented us from caring for our kids, we could ask for help easier than if we are struggling with anxiety.
Here’s the deal: both keep us from being (and feeling) the way we want to be as moms.
At the end of the day, we want our kids to feel loved, cared for, and growing great in all areas, so why aren’t we reaching out to accomplish this?
I spent a season where (I had just delivered my fifth baby) the first few postpartum days were traumatic. He was lip and tongue tied so feeding him was excruciating.
I had done something to my tailbone during the birth process so I was so uncomfortable, topped with getting mastitis due to the feeding problems.
The problem was, I also had four other children to care for.
I didn’t heed my body’s warning to ask for help and ended up having a really bad experience.
Because I couldn’t get past my own thoughts and pride, this situation in my body took close to a year to resolve.
My own thoughts that I couldn’t manage meant I was an unfit mother or I wasn’t an ultimate mother (or whatever guilt and shame I had) cost me time with my new baby and ultimately relationship time with the people I love the most.
5 Bible Verses to Nudge You in Asking for Help
2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.
3 All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. 4 He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.
so it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other.
12 Their responsibility is to equip God’s people to do his work and build up the church, the body of Christ.
17 And though we are many, we all eat from one loaf of bread, showing that we are one body.
As you can see, we need each other as moms! We are able to share our gifts (and struggles) to help other moms!
10 Tips for Moms When Struggling
- Validate your feelings.
- Put boundaries up and sometimes you need to say “no!”
- Do the most important thing first!
- Ask for help!
- Limit your time online. (Comparison isn’t good at all and as moms, it can make things so much harder!)
- Don’t forget about the importance of rest.
- Get outside daily! It’s a mood lifter and a stress buster!
- Focus on fueling your body with good foods. (It’s amazing how protein and greens help make us feel better!)
- Drink more water. Dehydration can cause us to feel stressed and icky!)
- Add some stress support supplements (and immune support ones too!)
What a blessing we have as moms to do kingdom work raising our children to be leaders of the next generation!
Because we have this such important work, let’s care for ourselves, and our families by asking for help from first and foremost God and then from others!
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