To My Sons: Marriage Is Absolutely Worth Your Wait

Inside: Why does God command that marriage is worth the wait for sex? Why should we encourage our boys to stand out and inspire waiting for marriage?

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This post was written to guide moms to begin the conversation with their sons about why waiting for marriage is important to their future marriage relationship!

Girls. I know you might not spend that much time thinking about them right now. But as you get older, they will be on your radar more and more.

First, you might see a cute girl and then you begin liking her.

When she’s around, you find yourself acting out of character. Maybe you flex those muscles and try to appear strong.

Or perhaps you do something daring and try and appear fearless. Regardless of your actions, you want her to notice you.

Second, this girl might start to like you too. You begin talking to her just the two of you.

Maybe you go on a date or you spend time at her house. Your feelings get stronger for this particular person and slowly you begin holding hands and kissing.

Finally, you’re not satisfied with just hand-holding and kissing. Your friends, siblings or even a Google search will give you ideas of doing things beyond just what you’ve been doing.

Your feelings for this girl want you to indulge in what you think will solidify your love.

It’s the natural progression, isn’t it?!? Or is it because everyone tells you to just do it?

What Culture Says (and it’s the opposite of what the Bible says)

Here’s what culture and your friends have been telling you:

• It doesn’t really matter in the great big picture of life.
• No one stays a virgin till their wedding night.
• Use protection.
• Make sure it’s consensual.
• Stay away from pornography.

So at the fork in the road, you decide to give in to what everyone else is doing. You believe the lies because there’s a lack of other men standing up declaring the Truth.

Son, your marriage is worth the wait.

(1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, NLT).
³ God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. ⁴ Then each of you will control his own body^[a] and live in holiness and honor— ⁵ not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways.

The statistics go along with the lies. By age 21, 85% of men have engaged in sexual intercourse. Although the average age of marriage in the United States is 27 years old for women and 29 years old for men.

The problem is, most men follow the status quo because of:

• Misconceptions.
• Our culture puts purity on the shoulders of women, but not on men.
• Sex is a symbol of manhood, therefore, a man who is a virgin well past the average age of losing their virginity is considered not masculine. (Remember the hit movie, “The 40-year-old Virgin”).
• Men who are virgins are silent so there’s a real lack of role models. (click to tweet)
• Culture considers it uncool.

You can see, there is a huge double standard and stigma regarding our boys and abstinence. (click to tweet)

Son, the reason your princess is worth the wait is that your marriage and the sexual intimacy in your marriage will have a better chance to be special and God-inspired when you wait.

You will have to answer to God someday for your immorality and adultery.

Your future wife deserves your patience and love.

When you think of sex before marriage, you might just think of pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease, but you’re missing the biggest deal, God will bless you when you wait for your wedding night.